Who Should Sleep On The Couch?
Posted by: Alan in Snore Guard, tags: Couch, Should, SleepBefore you get all bent out of shape please know that I absolutely love my husband but his snoring is driving me crazy. Since we have been married my husband has gained weight and has started snoring really bad. At times it is like sleeping with a motorbike. He bought a mouth guard that really helps with his snoring but takes it out in his sleep because it feels weird. Now he says he cannot find it. Every night that we sleep in the same bed I nudge him constantly and get very little sleep. We also have two children that sometimes do not sleep through the night. Our three year old has developed a habit of climbing in our bed early in the morning as well. I tell my husband that he needs to sleep on the couch but he complains that it hurts his back. I think that I should not have to sleep on the couch to escape his snoring when I am not the one that snores and if the kids need something I would have to tend to them from the couch. He has also rolled over on top of me in the middle of the night and I am afraid he will do the same to one of our children if left in the bed with him. He sleeps through everything and I get very little sleep. He will not talk to his doctor about his snoring and I am seriously reaching my breaking point. What should I do?
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September 21st, 2009 at 12:02 am
I can really relate to this problem cos i dont get alot of sleep either due to my husband and his snoring , sounds like a train coming through the room , i have even gone to bed and fallen asleep before him only to wake up to his snoring , my sister also has the same problem with her husband , every few days she makes him sleep on a spare foldup bed in another room , she does have to get some sleep . I have found that if he has a few drinks it makes it worse. The only thing i do is to either take calmative tablets to make me relax or wear myself out in the daytime to make me very tired , if i have a sleep in the arvo im wide awake during the night which doesnt help . Make him go and sleep in another room , if he sleeps through anything doesnt matter what hes sleeping on does it .
September 21st, 2009 at 1:03 am
Do you have a spare bedroom? When I was married to my ex I used to get up when/if he started snoring really bad and go on the couch myself. If my kids got up in the middle of the night I would hear them and at least I got some sleep as long as I shut the door to my bedroom because it at muffled the sound to a point where I could sleep. To me it was worth it for me to get up and go then fight with him about it.
September 21st, 2009 at 1:19 am
I understand and sympathize with you because I am going through the same thing. We are doing up a make shift room with a futon in which my dude is going to have to sleep in. I feel your hubby needs to make the couch comfy enough to not hurt his back or find and use his mouth guard!!
I also suggest that you return your child to his or her own bed each and everytime they come to yours.
September 21st, 2009 at 3:12 am
I had the same snoring problem with my husband. I go to the couch, because at least I get some sleep that way. he went to have surgery now so he doesn’t really snore any more. Don’t use sleeping pills or ear plugs because they don’t work either. After you go to the couch and get some sleep and feel more normal you will be able to discuss it better with your husband. Good Luck
September 21st, 2009 at 4:52 am
I had the same problem with my ex-wife ( not the reason we split ).
We ended up sleeping in different bedrooms at opposite ends & floors of the house. We only met for spawning. Foam ear plugs do help and high pitched noises do filter through, try them you should be able to hear a child cry. As for who sleeps on the couch, it should be him.
September 21st, 2009 at 4:53 am
I meant to answer this question way earlier, but my boss wanted me to do some work, lol! I had this problem with my ex when we lived together. I ended up sleeping on the couch, because it wasn’t his fault that I’m a light sleeper. It was so aggravating, though.
September 21st, 2009 at 6:49 am
I know many couples that have separate bedrooms just for the snoring reason!
They are happily married and “visit” each others rooms for certain activities BUT when it comes time to sleep you have to do what you have to do! ! ! !
September 21st, 2009 at 8:13 am
Call the doctor and ask what they can do.
Or he should sleep on the couch, because he is the man.
Or if it is bothering you very much, you sleep on the couch, then he will feel bad.
Then he will.
=]
September 21st, 2009 at 9:28 am
We have a similar problem – I bought some of those little foam earplugs and they have made a WORLD of difference in my getting some sleep without either of us having to leave the comfort of the bed.
September 21st, 2009 at 1:01 pm
I’d probably sleep with my 3 year old. I hate the couch, but his bed is pretty comfy. Plus I feel like if it’s me being bothered, I should be the one to move. Although, he really should go to the doctor about it.
September 21st, 2009 at 1:18 pm
Have separate rooms (thick walls lol) with a bed each, and maybe share a bed sometimes, and just explain its coz of the snoring not lack of love lol
September 21st, 2009 at 4:04 pm
I have exactly the same problem. Whoever goes to bed first gets the real bed. The kids like it better when he gets the bedroom because they can shut their door and his door.
September 21st, 2009 at 8:23 pm
i seen something similar 2 this on wifeswap and that woman made her husband sleep in her daughters bed but there might be something u can buy at wal-mart idk
September 21st, 2009 at 11:53 pm
Alright Boysrus…I’m scooting over. You can bunk with me but you will have to be the big spoon.
September 22nd, 2009 at 12:39 am
Make him go to the doctor, or take a sleeping pill.
September 22nd, 2009 at 2:19 am
take turns as far who sleeps on the couch.
September 22nd, 2009 at 4:38 am
Who ever is fatter and uglier
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:27 am
you, he has a sleeping problem. if u really love him you would take the couch. its not like he enjoys or snores on purpose
September 22nd, 2009 at 11:50 am
Drink a bottle of wine before bed and you won’t hear anything.
September 22nd, 2009 at 3:30 pm
My Dad used to snore real bad. I don’t know what they gave him or did, but he went to the doctor and he doesn’t snore real loud anymore.
September 22nd, 2009 at 3:43 pm
If he refuses to go to doctor for help then he gets to sleep on the sofa. I wouldn’t let it be up for discussion, that’s his only choice period!
September 22nd, 2009 at 9:01 pm
make him sleep on the couch why should you be deprived of your sleep
September 22nd, 2009 at 9:31 pm
hahaha omgg let him sleep on the couch
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:58 pm
build an extra bedroom or take turns
September 23rd, 2009 at 4:22 am
flip a coin !
September 23rd, 2009 at 6:13 am
buy him another mouth gaurd
September 23rd, 2009 at 6:15 am
u sleep on the couch
September 23rd, 2009 at 6:47 am
you could get another bed and put it in your spare room (if you have one) and make him sleep there.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:29 am
i’m in the same boat as you (no kids tho) and its me that sleeps on the couch. he wont wake up and refuses to sleep there unless he just happens to fall asleep on the couch in the first place. so if it wakes me up, i just get up and move. i’ve also tried buying ear plugs. they work pretty well, unless he’s snoring in my face. you should try them out. get the foam ones that come in like a pack of 50. they should have them in places like models (anywhere that might have a hunting section)
September 23rd, 2009 at 2:43 pm
Snoring could be an indicator of a health problem, and he should be made aware of this. He may have sleep apnea, and is actually failing to breath at certain points of the night. This could create other health issues as well if it remains untreated.
Neither one of you should have to leave your bedroom. He really needs to see a doctor about his snoring for the sake of his health and your relationship. Couples who do not sleep in the same room have an additional strain on the relationship, creating greater distance in a time where couples hardly see each other as it is between child raising and full time jobs.
September 23rd, 2009 at 8:02 pm
My partner snores too, he has gained some weight and his snoring has got worse over the last year. I also have got three kids to get up to, too. I usually go to bed before my partner does so I am asleep before he starts snoring. But of course if I get up to my babby or a child during the night and he is snoring, I am laying awake trying to get him to roll over or change positions so he stops snoring for long enough that I can go back to sleep.
My partner has some nasal spray and it helped a lot but he “didn’t like it” so he still snores. He also complains of being very tired all the time and I have told him to go to the Doctors also because his snoring means that he isn’t getting good quality sleep. If your partner and mine lost a bit of weight (I am not picking, this is just fact) they would both snore less and not as loudly and a Doctor will point this out.
I would go and sleep with one of your children, or alternate who sleeps on the couch, that is what we do if my partners snoring gets out of control.