Question by m.i.s.s.: Has anyone else kicked their dad out of their life?
I feel really weird for talking on the phone to my dad or calling him or answering when he calls. He’s just really weird. Growing up my mom would have to kick him out of their room because he snored too loud & kept her awake, and he’d never just take snoring medicine. He ended up sleeping in the guestroom every night for years and they slept in separate bedrooms. They never really had a normal relationship and I think he has issues. He’s white and my mom is latina, she wanted a big family and he didn’t for financial reasons so I was the only child. He didn’t even seem like a father and now that I’ve been living on my own he feels useless as a father I actually feel happier when I don’t talk to him over the phone. He bought a big house and a nice car but money was always so tight because of the big house payments we could literally not afford anything else & he’d never let me do anything because of “gas prices”, etc. I couldn’t go anywhere unless it was school. What’s his problem??? And he’s also passive aggressive, paranoid/anxious, negative, and somewhat anti-social. He also never taught me anything or diciplined me but my mom was the one who did everything in raising me. He just brought in the money which we wern’t allowed to spend unless it was approved by him, and everything that was approved was garbage. He was a huge control freak. My mom left him but I stayed with my dad because my mom would have no money. Now that I am on my own I feel no urge or desire to call my dad or keep in touch with him, and I feel happier when I don’t talk to him. Should I just “kick” him out of my life? He seems useless as a dad, especially now that I provide my own money.
Best answer:
Answer by Lauren You dont necessarily have to kick him out of your life. Just keep in touch on the occasions, xmas birthdays etc and in the mean time if you dont feel like talking much then you dont have to, dont make rash decisions tho and tell him you dont want anythng to do with him. The fact he is calling you obviously shows he cares, even if it is in an odd way sometimes. my advice woould be to not make any decisions, if you dont wana talk one day then you dont have to, return his call another day, i think id u cut him out you will regret it in later life.
Question by BM22: Why does it still hurt? Help, how can I get over a tragic event in my life?
When I was 18, I witnessed my uncle having a massive heart attak.
It was winter 2008, my cousin and i were watching tv on the couch and my uncle was in his chair. We were deep into our show (greys anatomy) and heard my uncle making weird snoring noises. We thought he was joking, until he never answered us and something seemed seriously wrong!
I ran to my uncles side ans realized that he was having a really hard time breathing and he was not responding to me or my cousin.
Soon my First Aid training kicked in and I became a totally different person, as my poor cousin was watching her father have a heart attach right in front of us. I called 911 and his ex wife whom lived 12 minutes away. As i hung up the phone, I got my uncle on the ground off his chair, and felt that he wasnt even breathing and made sure he wasnt choking. I then realized what was going on and started the CPR. I remembered everything from the lessons.
1. making sure his airway was open
2. breathing into his airway
3. doing 30 chest compressions
and repeating the steps and making sure he wasnt breathing on his own again..
My Aunt arrived and tried to releave me from doing the compressions but she was not strong enough or in the right state of mind to do it so i pushed her out of the way…
still doing compressions for 25 minutes hoping and praying, waiting for the ambulance I realized that my uncle had passed away in my hands.
As the ambulance attendees got there they tried reviving him by using the paddles but they knew and just didnt say anything that he was gone. I was even helping the attendees get him onto the gurney and rushing him into the ambulance! As they left with my uncle and aunt. I waited for the ambulance to leave, I got into my aunts car and drove my cousin and I to the hospital 35 minutes away! not even keeping up with ambulance because i was in no state to drive at high speeds. praying with my cousin on the way to the hospital that the he will be alright.
getting to the hospital and being kept in a small room waiting to hear from my aunt and the doctor, nurses and the attendees kept asking me to speak to them and saying that I did an amazing job! So this gave me hope!
As the doctor and my aunt came out, from my aunts face i knew, and my cousin was bursting into tears. My uncle passed away!
Later that night leaving the hospital at 2:30 am, i drove my aunt and my cousin home to my aunts house, in the absoute worst snow storm of the year. Not being able to see 5 ft infront of the car.
Later I was up all night, not being able to sleep. while my cousin was trying to rest, and my aunt called her parents.
Calling my father was extremely hard because he and my uncle were best friends! explaining to him what happened was the worst thing ever!!
Still to this day I believe if I just did something more, I could still be with my uncle! For the longest time my relationship with my cousin was weird because I felt like she blamed me for not saving him or for doing something wrong.
I still carry this horrible feeling around with me, and honestly think about it everyday!
How can I get past this? I still sometimes cry silently at night before falling asleep so that my boyfriend doesnt hear me…
Please help..
Best answer:
Answer by humpty dumpty Grief is a terrible thing and can last for a long time. Guilt sometimes comes and a lot of people will feel guilty thinking they could have done more, but really honey you did everything and more. I think because you saw him die that it has affected you more. Seeing someone die is horrible. Sudden death is worse. It is traumatic. I think you need to cry. Crying can help get some of it out. Then it builds up again and you cry more. Don’t try to be quiet, just cry. Trying to be quiet when you cry is an awful straining thing, not the cleansing, cathartic cry you need. Just explain to your boyfriend. I am sorry for your pain.
Behind the Scenes Production Blog, truelife.mtv.com. Five minute audition tape / demo for producers (July 3, 2008) myspace.com/newellmek — MTV True Life episode on sleep disorders. “I Can’t Sleep,” premiere February 1, 2009.
Breathe & feel better the moment you try it. Fits so comfortably, you’ll forget it’s even there. Easy in; easy out. Gently lifts nose open. Reusable. ADULT SIZE Molds behind parts in the nose, so stays put (with no pinch/press/pulling). You won’t even feel it. Great for sleep, stress relief, increased stamina, When exercising, stuffy nose, dry mouth, or tired feeling. Video Rating: 0 / 5
I START SNORING FROM LAST 3 YEARS I HAD DNS PROBLEM AND HAD SURGERY BEFORE 4 MONTHS BUT THAT DONOT REMEDIES MY SNORING?MY WEIGHT IS 84 KILOGRAM….I TRIED A LOT OF SPRAY HELP ME
Entries (RSS)